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Children invited to a wedding: how to dress them from 2 to 8 so they last the whole day
The ceremony lasts an hour, the party goes on into the evening. Three questions to ask before you buy, the layer that comes off and goes back on and, for each age, a few dresses for her and a few suits for him that you'll actually find in the boutique.
By The Noi da piccoli boutiqueUpdated November 20267-minute read
What should you ask yourself before buying a wedding outfit?
Three questions, and the answers narrow things down more than any photo. The Italian parenting magazine Nostrofiglio also suggests starting with the season, the time of day and your child's role.
- Where and what time? An 11 o'clock church service followed by lunch at a villa and a civil ceremony at sunset with dinner outdoors call for different outfits. The longer the party, the more it helps to have a jacket or cardigan to take off and put back on.
- What season? In warm weather, cotton and light fabrics; in the cold, velvet and a coat for getting from place to place. Our range is wider for spring–summer.
- Guest or part of the wedding party? If they're a page boy or flower girl, the couple decide the colour and style: choose from the ceremony wear together with them, sending photos before you order.
Our catalogue has around 300 ceremony pieces with a size available between 2 and 8 years, mostly ceremony dresses and suits, from brands such as Isabel, Ponto Por Ponto, Charo, Cua-Cuak, Bella Brilli and Bufi. Beyond 8 years the choice is smaller, so for an older child it's worth messaging us on WhatsApp first.
Can a girl invited to a wedding wear white?
Etiquette keeps white for the bride and allows white details, as the Italian news site Quotidiano.net, for example, points out. That article is about adults, though, and we haven't found a written rule for girls. It's a fair question: around one in three of our girls' ceremony dresses is white, cream or ivory. You have two options:
- Ask the couple. A quick message with a photo of the dress is all it takes to settle it.
- Choose a colour, or white with coloured details. Among our ceremony dresses you'll also find white ones with little flowers, polka dots or coloured bows.
How do you dress them so they last the whole day?
A wedding with a reception takes up most of the day. The outfit chosen for church has to work in the afternoon too, after hours at the table and a few runs around the garden, and in the evening, when it gets cooler and tiredness sets in. That's why, more than the outfit itself, what matters is the layer that comes off: a jacket, waistcoat or cardigan. On for the ceremony and the photos, on the back of the chair during lunch, back on in the evening.
| When | What happens | What you need |
|---|---|---|
| Ceremony | In church or at the town hall everyone sits quietly, often for an hour: this is the part where they're asked to keep still. | The full outfit, with the extra layer on. A quiet toy in your bag. |
| Photos | Groups, relatives, the couple: lots of standing and waiting, often outdoors, and the outfit still needs to look neat. | Jacket, waistcoat or cardigan still on; clean shoes and socks. |
| Lunch or reception | Hours at the table, then running around the garden or the hall, sitting on the floor, grubby hands. | Off comes the extra layer: just the shirt or dress stays on. Spare clothes within reach. |
| Evening | It gets cooler, there's dancing, tiredness kicks in; the little ones fall asleep in someone's arms or in the pushchair. | The extra layer goes back on. For those who flake out, something comfy for the journey home. |
For him, look at suits with a jacket, such as double-breasted ones: the jacket already works as the extra layer. For her, over the dress, a cardigan or a light knit that picks up one of the dress's colours.
What should a girl or boy wear to a wedding, age by age?
For each age, what works and what doesn't, with spring–summer dresses and suits that have a size available in that age range. Stock changes, so check the size on the product page.
2–3 years: the ones who run about and sit on the floor
At two and three they walk, run, sit on the church floor and want to be picked up, often all within the same quarter of an hour. Go for a dress that doesn't get in the way of their legs and a simple suit; some little dresses for the youngest come with matching bloomers. This is the age when a second outfit comes in most handy.
For her, 2–3 years
For him, 2–3 years
4–5 years: the ones with opinions
At four and five they cope better with sitting through the ceremony, but they know exactly what they like, and an outfit they don't like comes off halfway through lunch. Pick two or three options yourself and let them make the final choice: they'll be much happier to keep it on until the evening. For summer there are suits in cool cotton.
For her, 4–5 years
For him, 4–5 years
6–8 years: the ones who want to feel grown-up
Between 6 and 8 the problem is no longer sitting still in church, but feeling dressed like a little kid. For him, four-piece or double-breasted suits work well; for her, bold colours or florals. These are the years when they dance: the jacket or cardigan is needed mostly in the evening.
For her, 6–8 years
For him, 6–8 years
What if the wedding is in autumn or winter?
The fabrics change, to velvet and fine velvet, and so do the colours: burgundy, red, pink, beige. Between the church, the photos and the reception venue you'll also need a coat: we explain how to choose one in our guide to children's coats, and you'll find the styles in Coats and Jackets.
If you're travelling with a car seat, take the coat off before doing up the harness and put it over the top: the American Academy of Pediatrics advises against padded clothing under the harness and recommends dressing children in thin layers.
For a winter wedding
What should you pack in your bag for the wedding?
- A comfy change of clothes for the afternoon or the journey home.
- Two outfits if they're under three: Nostrofiglio suggests this too.
- Spare socks or tights: they get wet and laddered easily during play.
- Shoes they've already worn in and, if you have them, a more comfortable pair for the evening.
- The jacket or cardigan, when they're not wearing it.
Bow ties, braces, tights: which details should you add?
For him, a bow tie and braces stay on show even when the jacket is on the back of the chair, which is most of the reception. For her, socks or tights in the colour of the dress or one of its details, with a spare pair in your bag.
Bow ties and braces
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What if the guests are siblings?
To coordinate two or three siblings, the same rules apply as in our guide to matching siblings: it was written for Christmas, but it works just as well for a wedding. For sizing, message us on WhatsApp, Monday to Saturday, 9am–1pm and 4pm–8pm, with each child's age, height and weight.
The car seat advice comes from the sources below and is no substitute for your paediatrician's advice: if you have any doubts about your child, ask your paediatrician.
Sources
- Nostrofiglio (magazine), Editorial team, ‘Come vestire i bambini per una cerimonia’, April 2022
- Quotidiano.net, ‘Come vestirsi a un matrimonio’, 2018 (about adults)
- American Academy of Pediatrics, HealthyChildren.org, ‘Winter Car Seat Safety Tips’
- American Academy of Pediatrics, HealthyChildren.org, ‘Winter Safety’
From the church to the last dance
Ceremony dresses and suits from 2 to 8 years, with free shipping in Italy from €99 and returns within 14 days of delivery. For sizing, message us on WhatsApp with their age, height and weight: Monday to Saturday, 9am–1pm and 4pm–8pm.
